Is being the baddest B#!&* soo important the 2016 woman? The competition between women is nothing new. Whether it’s for fame or fortune is the case sometimes but it becomes a battle most of the time over the opposite sex.
We teach girls to shrink themselves To make themselves smaller We say to girls, “You can have ambition But not too much You should aim to be successful But not too successful Otherwise you will threaten the man.” Because I am female I am expected to aspire to marriage I am expected to make my life choices Always keeping in mind that Marriage is the most important Now marriage can be a source of Joy and love and mutual support But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage And we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors Not for jobs or for accomplishments Which I think can be a good thing But for the attention of men We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings In the way that boys are Feminist: the person who believes in the social Political, and economic equality of the sexes
– Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Experiences shape us to either bond with other women to uplift each other or band against each other to tear each other apart. I know it may be hard to believe, but most women require the same thing; support, love, and friendship. Your priorities may be different. Unfortunately, there isn’t always a “kumbaya” moment when women are in the same room.
So why the constant women anthems? Why the enormous amount of “girl power” type ad placement? And why let everyone know how bad it gets by airing reality shows that continuously display us fighting ? The answer is easy. Money, Power, Respect. Any media source, clothing line, bookstore, or production company know that women account for around 80% of consumer purchasing. Therefore, anything positive or negative that is women driven will sell.
How can we control the images that are placed out there about how we interact? What type of network can be created to encourage women? What sources have you seen work in the woman’s favor for personal and professional? Of course there isn’t one thing that could correct or any form of magic that can reveal the keys to success for woman. However, be very knowledgeable about the path you choose to take. Know that every woman you meet does not have an agenda to tear you apart or destroy you. Some are actually here to help and let you know what path they had to take as a women in their industry. Be encouraged ladies and don’t be afraid to get in formation.
Formatting to create this powerful network does not mean to conform. It simply means to stand your ground confidently, know your individuality, know the roles that your team plays, and never forget that the women you encounter are jumping the same hurdles you are. They may have created the roads you are traveling or grateful that you have paved the way. Many will play you against your sisters, but be encouraged and keep your formation strong ladies.